Having twins is harder than I could have imagined. When I say they keep me ony toes that is putting it lightly. It is very hard to comfort and soothe two babies at the same time. Actually it is impossible. On top of that the girls have began to feed off of each other. When one begins crying the other feels it necessary to join in. Usually the volume level increases steadily as they both attempt to get my attention. I have learned I have to focus on one and then move to the next child. Granted by the time I move to the second, the first child figures out I am not paying attention to them anymore and the process starts over. This is where the "patience",that God so wonderfully molded in me over the course of trying to have a baby, kicks in.
I often feel a bit guilty at the end of each day. Many days I tend to spend more time with one girl over the other based on fussiness, upset tummy, trouble napping, etc. It is a reality of having twins. I am slowly coming to terms with that. Often while I am laying down at night to get some much needed sleep I feel like I didn't have enough time to just talk, play and smile with the girls. I know it all stems from wanting to give my girls everything imaginable. I want them to have 100% of my energy and attention. Matt says I am too hard on myself and that I go above and beyond. I choose to think he is right; I sleep much better that way :)
I won't lie...their have been quite a few tears shed over the course of the past 6 weeks. I find the tears are a great way to release the stress that builds during those loud crying sessions and nights where the babies just don't want to sleep. I just cry it out with them. I think its good for the soul :) I still have the really happy cries as well. I find myself just staring at the girls sometimes and crying...amazed at how beautiful and sweet they are. They are miracles to me!!!
I am extremely thankful for a very hands on father. Matt is wonderful with our girls. He is always there to step in and help me. I don't know what I would do without him. I know his Mom would be so proud of him. She taught him well. He recognizes when I need a break and takes care of the girls so I can take a bath or go on a walk. Just yesterday, he watched the girls while I went to the grocery store. When I returned an hour later, he explained how as soon as I left hell broke loose and both girls decided to scream as loud as possible for the entire hour. I said "welcome to my world". We just laughed!
My family has been a big help lately. I have spent a lot of time at my parents house in the past month. The extra hands are a blessing! While Matt has traveled for work or during weeks where I felt he needed a break and a quiet house I have taken the girls, Georgie and I to the farm!! Between my parents, sisters, nieces and nephews...the girls are always taken care of. Plus, I love how peaceful it is and the fresh air rejuvinates me.
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aww...so cute!! Elizabeth has that same Ralph Lauren jumper that Claire has on!
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